Sunday, October 19, 2014

Living with Regrets

My aggravated (and aggravating!!) back have prevented much of my weekend agenda. Sigh.

But since I've been homebound for the most part, I've been able to get some little things done around the house and a lot of reading.

Earlier this week at work, a discussion came up about regrets, accepting God's forgiveness and having the ability to forgive ourselves.

One of the ladies shared this quote via email today and once again, I'm amazed at how another person's words can speak so directly to my heart, at a most-needed time.

"If you regret some of the decisions you made in the past, don't be so hard on yourself. At that time, you did your best with the knowledge that you had. At that time, you did your best with the experience you had. If you were to make those decisions with the wisdom you have now, you would choose differently. You would handle life's challenges in more effective ways. So give yourself a break and forgive yourself. Time and experience has a wonderful way to make us realize that we prosper, grow and learn to make better choices today, for ourselves and those we care for." (~Brigitte Nelson~)

When I read those words, my only response was AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! Actually more along the lines of 'I knoowww, right!?!'.

My youth minister, Keith, used to tease me about how there wasn't much of a need to reprimand me because I was harder on myself than anyone else ever would be. That he only felt obliged to redirect me to something more appropriate then remind me about the importance of forgiveness even to ourselves. That's one thing that hasn't changed over the years though the self-hatred times are far shorter, less intense and forgiveness comes much more easily.

Thankful for the insightful reminder and for my co-worker's willingness to share.

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